5 ways to add joy into your meals

In this season of the podcast Chasing Life With Dr. Sanjay Gupta, CNN’s chief medical correspondent has explored the topic of weight: what it really tells you about your health, why it’s so hard to lose, how the new diet drugs work and its links to menopause (you can listen to the episodes here).

Whether you are happy with your size or not, whether you follow a special diet or eat what you want when you want, the basic fact of life — unavoidable, inescapable, non-negotiable — is that we all have to eat. If we are fortunate, it’s usually up to five times a day, every day.

How you choose to nourish yourself can make a big difference in how you feel, not only in your body, but about yourself and the world around you.

“I had this babysitter who was a chronic dieter,” Dr. Linda Shiue, an internal medicine physician and trained chef, told Gupta on the podcast recently. “She would eat this colorless, aroma-less food and she was sad all the time.”

That is not Shiue’s style. She is the first director of culinary medicine at Kaiser Permanente San Francisco. That’s where she founded Thrive Kitchen, a teaching kitchen for patients, so she could do more than just hand out prescriptions for chronic conditions.

She wanted to create a place where she could teach her patients to make healthy food taste good. “They think it’s deprivation and, you know, loss of joy and kind of penance even,” said Shiue, who is also the author of “Spicebox Kitchen: Eat Well and Be Healthy with Globally Inspired, Vegetable-Forward Recipe.” “It’s colorless, it’s bland, it has no texture, it has no flavor and — we’re not supposed to enjoy it.”

Similar to her cookbook, Shiue’s classes show patients how to use spices and herbs to flavor seasonal cuisine while following an eating pattern that supports health.

“As a food lover since birth, and a physician who has seen the negative effects of chronic dieting, I encourage people to reframe their relationship to food as a source of pleasure, cultural connection and well-being, regardless of weight. This can be a hard task given the pro-diet messaging that surrounds us,” Shiue said in an email.

What can you do to break out of the diet mindset and really enjoy your food? Shiue has five tips.

Stop judging food as good or bad

Food isn’t intrinsically good or evil, so there is no need to feel bad about food choices.

“Many of us have experienced shame or guilt around food, and a lot of that is a product of our culture and what the food industry has taught us and what the fashion and whole dieting industries have created,” Shiue said.

“Even though we, as an individual, may not even think that we care that much about that message, it’s reached all of us — it’s in all of our subconscious,” she said. “I think that most people at some point feel like, ‘Oh, I shouldn’t eat that. That’s bad for me. It might affect my weight.’”

Shiue wants to help people learn how to stop thinking that way. “There’s no room for shame on the plate,” she said, choosing her language around food carefully.

“In diet culture, people talk about ‘cheat’ days (but) I prefer to celebrate ‘treat’ days. Everything in moderation, and that means there is room for the occasional indulgence,” she said.

Don’t go on ‘diets’

Restrictive diets are counterproductive because most of us won’t be able to stick to them perfectly and forever.

“(S)tudy after study has proven that the best eating plan is the one which any given individual can stick with — a sustainable lifestyle change,” Shiue said.

“Rather than restricting, add more of the foods (that) science shows us are better for our health: lots of plants, legumes and whole grains. This will improve your health even if (you) aren’t eating ‘perfectly’ all the time, and even if you don’t lose weight,” she said.

Shiue admitted to not eating perfectly all the time and having a sweet tooth; she said she allows herself to enjoy her favorite treats — just not all the time.

Listen to your body

Eat intuitively.

“That means several things,” said Shiue said. “First, are you actually hungry, or are you feeding an emotional need, such as anxiety, sadness, or fatigue?

“How does the food make you feel after you eat? Do you feel comfortably full, or are you feeling stuffed? How is your energy level after eating?” she said. “When you pay attention to these feelings, your body will guide you to making the healthiest food choices for you.”

Also, eat mindfully, which Shiue said does not mean meditating over your food.

“It means when you’re eating your food, just focus on the pleasure of that,” she said. “Eat slowly. Chew your food. … Also pay attention to when you’ve had enough.”

Reclaim your food heritage

Healthy diets can come from a variety of ethnicities and customs, and they can contain a cornucopia of flavors and ingredients.

“A lot of people were taught that quote-unquote ‘cultural food’ … is not healthy,” Shiue said. “People are told, ‘Oh no, no: The food that you eat, that’s why you have diabetes. You have to eat this kind of standard, healthy American diet.’”

But she said that many people from different backgrounds either don’t want to switch diets, or they don’t know how or it just doesn’t work out — and, Shiue said, they really don’t have to.

“The traditional diet of every culture contains healthy foods, and should be celebrated, with pleasure,” she said.

Think beyond calories

Remind yourself that food is more than a way to simply stay alive.

“Nutrition and sustenance — that’s only one small part of food,” Shiue said. “Food is, for me, mainly pleasure. It’s a connection to myself, to my loved ones, to my culture.”

She added food is also an expression of love and caring.

“Enjoy your food,” she said.

A couple lost their wedding rings during the ceremony. Two strangers found a fitting solution

Every good wedding has to have one teensy, tiny crisis.

For Calivé and Shannon Jackson, everything was going according to plan as they exchanged vows on the sands of Playa Del Carmen on Dec. 14, 2023. The couple had decided to elope, hopping a plane from their home in Trinidad and Tobago to the beaches of Mexico for a celebration all to themselves.

“We love to travel and be in love in different places,” Calivé Jackson told CNN. “We love all the things anyone with the appropriate amount of joie de vivre loves: making memories and collecting as many experiences as possible.”

They were about to collect another one.

By this point, the Jacksons were well aware that even intimate weddings have dozens of little details to account for. They had planned the event for a year and were sure they had everything down.

But what they couldn’t plan for was the enormity of the day, the emotions that come from setting aside planning for doing, for finally — finally — getting to focus completely on their love.

“Shannon and I were so unbelievably nervous,” Jackson said. “We were suddenly in the moment, shocked that we were really there and about to get married. So naturally everything was a blur.”

Oh, and there were tears. (Every good wedding needs some of those, too.) As they said their vows, the newly-minted Jacksons were, in Calivé’s words, “a blubbering mess.”

“It was pretty embarrassing how we were crying so hard,” she said.

Then, the officiant asked for their wedding rings to seal the deal.

The rings? The rings!! Shannon patted their pockets, one after the other and then again. No rings. The searching got a little more frantic.

“Mayday, mayday!” their photographer Ezequiel Marcellini called. “We’ve lost the rings!”

“Everything paused all at once then, everyone started looking; us, our wedding planner, our officiant,” Jackson said. “Someone ran back to our room and still didn’t find them, we searched our photographer’s backpack and didn’t find them either.”

Meanwhile, life around the wedding whirlwind continued. Vacationers roamed the beach, enjoying the day. Some had stopped to watch the nuptials from afar.

Then an Argentinian husband and wife saw something had gone sideways, and approached the distressed couple.

“They came over and were so excited for us, crying almost as hard as we were,” Jackson said.

Once they realized what was wrong, the Argentinian couple offered their own wedding rings without a second thought. Finishing the ceremony with a pair of borrowed rings wasn’t the Jacksons’ original plan, but that’s the thing about small crises: They really make you appreciate the moment.

Calivé and Shannon got back in their places, said what needed to be said and slid the rings on each others’ hands.

“We didn’t think they would fit,” Jackson said. “But they fit so perfectly it felt like some kind of magic.”

There was, of course, more crying after that. The two couples exchanged “thank yous” and “congratulations,” and posed for a few pictures that will undoubtedly have a special place in the Jackson’s wedding album.

By the time the excitement ebbed and the Argentinian couple had gone on their way (with their rings back), Calivé Jackson realized she didn’t even get their names.

She did, however, honor them with a post on X that attracted tons of love, both for the newlywed couple and the kind strangers who stepped in to make their wedding even more special.

“We are beyond grateful. Our wedding day was already special because we were there to celebrate our love, our happiness, the home we built with each other and we thought we were there alone,” Jackson told CNN.

“But it turns out we weren’t. People celebrate wherever love is, and we got to share our moment with so many people that were so happy for us. We can never thank those two enough for that.”

Oh, and the Jacksons did end up finding their rings. They were nestled in a pouch in the bottom corner of an equipment bag — at the wedding all along.

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